Archive for January 1st, 2010

Hello, lovely to see you here; thanks for visiting!

I was working on some articles today, on health and wellbeing for the forum, and whilst taking a break I was reading through some articles on one of my favourite websites:

http://www.guruhabits.com by Brad Paul

I came across this article and felt it was perfect for the health section as stress is one of the greatest killers of our times.  His suggestions make a lot of sense so I thought I would share them with you and wish you a stress-less life!

I have edited the article a wee bit to make it shorter, but if you want to read the full article, go to – http://guruhabits.com

“The desire to reduce stress is a common goal for most people. We are so entrenched in our routines, habits, and ways of doing things we rarely stop and consider new ways of dealing with the stresses of daily living.

By simplifying your style, you are setting up how you are going to respond to stress creating events in advance. In other words, you are making a decision based on your desire to reduce stress in your life.
Your goal is to set up new ways of handling issues that bring about stress because of the negative emotions that they create. Here are 9 areas where you can simplify your style and in doing so reduce stress.

1. Stop Arguing
Arguing is a waste of time. No one ever wins. If you win an argument, the other person feels slighted and annoyed by you. If you lose, you feel this way about them.

Simplify your style into being a person who does not argue.

2. Stop Giving Your Unsolicited Opinion
Closely related to arguing is the compulsion to give your opinion when you haven’t been asked for it. People instantly become resistant and defensive when someone gives their unsolicited opinion.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t give your opinion unless you’re asked for it emphatically
3. Stop Reacting When Others Speak Angrily
When people talk angrily about something, our tenancy is to react to their anger by getting tight, defensive, and stressed. Unless the anger is directed at us, there is no logical reason to react this way.

Modify your style into being a person who does not react to another person’s anger.

4. Stop Requiring Perfection of Yourself & Others
Perfection is an impossible objective. In reality, the drive for perfection gets in the way of creativity.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t require perfection by knowing that it’s a fool’s quest.

5. Stop Trying to Please Everyone
Trying to please everyone is insanity. If you consider all the variations of personalities and likes and dislikes of people, it should be obvious that trying to please everyone is impossible and a waste of time.

Modify your style into being a person who does not try to please everyone.
6. Stop Trying to Make Everyone Like You
Do you like everyone you meet? No one does. Knowing this, why should you expect everyone to like you?

Simplify your style into being a person who does not try to make everyone like you, but rather a person who relies on just being yourself.

7. Stop Grieving About Past Mistakes
Grieving about mistakes you’ve made in the past is a clear waste of time. The only possible outcome is that you’ll feel depressed in the present! And when you feel depressed, you greatly reduce your ability to take constructive action today that will improve your future.

Adjust your style into being a person who doesn’t grieve about mistakes in the past but rather rejoices in what you have today and what you intend to manifest in the future.

8. Stop Worrying About What Might Happen in the Future
By worrying about what might happen in the future, we actually create the conditions for manifesting it. Most things we worry about never come true. According to the Law of Attraction, it takes a lot more negative thoughts to bring about bad results than it does to manifest positive outcomes. This explains for me why most of what we worry about never comes true. Worry is a waste of time. It’s also very damaging to your physical and mental health.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t worry about what might happen in the future, but rather a person who imagines living the future that they desire in the present.

9. Stop Researching & Analyzing So Much and Start Doing
Researching and analyzing things in order to make the best possible decision is a good practice if it leads to a timely decision to act! If the research and analysis goes too far and decisions are postponed, this is a stress-producing problem.

Modify your style in being a person who does a predetermined amount of research and analysis and then makes a timely decision based on the information gathered, gut feelings, and courage!
If you think about the people in your life you admire, many of them probably have the style that I am encouraging. This style will reduce stress, enhance your health, and earn respect from others.” end of article.

I am going to add these suggestions to my plan for the future!   Thanks for visiting this site.   As mentioned before, for the full article and to gain more wisdom go to:

http://www.guruhabits.com (p.s. I am not an affiliate – I just like his site)

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What does wealth mean to you?

Wikipedia: definition of wealth:
Wealth is an abundance of valuable resources or material possessions. The word is derived from the old English wela, which is from an Indo-European word stem. An individual, community, region or country that has an abundance of such possessions or resources is called wealthy.

I recall the threads of a story I read many years ago; and as the memory dims with the years I may not get it 100% accurate.  But the gist of it goes like this:

One dark, stormy wind-swept night a ship was sailing to distant shores.    As it steamed ahead a mighty gale blew up and in no time at all the ship was swept onto the rocky coast nearby.

Hundreds of people from villages nearby ran out into the wet and windy night to help, lanterns lit to guide the way, with boats to rescue, hands to grasp a drowning man.

Dozens of people were dragged up onto the shore that night and none so piteous as an old man who called out in desperation, beseeching all who would listen!  My Treasure, my Treasure! Oh please save my treasure.

Impatient people, dismayed at the selfishness of this old man, slapped his hands away and shook their fists at him, saying: “There are lives to be saved Old-Man; your treasure can wait”.

Minutes passed and soon turned into hours as desperate survivors called out for help and compassionate villagers hurried here and there, wrapping blankets and shawls, handing out food and warm drinks and comforting those who lived and laying out those who could not be saved.

Suddenly above the noise of the people, beyond the sound of the raging storm a cry rang out!   High and keening, it shook those who heard – to their very souls.   The old man leapt painfully to his feet, staggering wildly towards the shore.   Angry men and women tried to grab him, shouting: ‘You fool, you fool, your treasure is not worth your life’.

Then with a last wild dash the old man bent and scooped a little girl up into his arms: weeping and sobbing he held her close, crying: ‘My treasure, my treasure!   Oh, you found my Treasure!

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“On this day of your life, dear friend, we believe God wants you to know……that you are valued more than you know, by more people than you think.

It might be good to get in touch today with your true worth.

It is much higher than you often give it credit for being — and now is a perfect time to know, and to gently assert, that fact.

This is not about arrogance and it is not about overconfidence.

It is about a simple, dignified Knowing.

You will not have to think but a second to understand precisely why you received this message today.” –Neale Donald Walsch

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quote: “No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.”  William Blake.

Happy New Year, I wish you an inspiring 2010

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