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And so it is over for another 364 days!  The build up, the excitement, the resolutions all on the shelf for another year. What a shame.

How did I spend my New Year? Well here I am in Hove, near the sea which I love and I got to see fireworks courtesy of some kind souls in the neighbourhood.  I also watched the fireworks on the London Eye via my TV (what would I do without all our wonderful technology).

Then to my delight at about 00:12 my daughter phoned to say “Happy New Year”, and indeed…now it was.

Woke early the next day and took a brisk walk to the beach, such a gorgeous day was not to be missed. 🙂

The streets were quite deserted and except for the occassional pedestrian I hardly saw a soul.   I greeted these few hardy citizens, about so early and received either a cheery response, a grumpy growl or a look that could melt ice. 🙂

The sea and sky were an icy shade of blue and the sun was rising from the east (as it does), casting a beam of light across the waves.   On the beach were the words HAPPY NEW YEAR, and so it shall be.

01.01.10 Happy New Year on the beach at Hove

01.01.10 Hove - clear blue sky and clear blue sea, on New Years day in the morning

01.10.10 on the beach at Hove looking towards Brighton

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Hello, lovely to see you here; thanks for visiting!

I was working on some articles today, on health and wellbeing for the forum, and whilst taking a break I was reading through some articles on one of my favourite websites:

http://www.guruhabits.com by Brad Paul

I came across this article and felt it was perfect for the health section as stress is one of the greatest killers of our times.  His suggestions make a lot of sense so I thought I would share them with you and wish you a stress-less life!

I have edited the article a wee bit to make it shorter, but if you want to read the full article, go to – http://guruhabits.com

“The desire to reduce stress is a common goal for most people. We are so entrenched in our routines, habits, and ways of doing things we rarely stop and consider new ways of dealing with the stresses of daily living.

By simplifying your style, you are setting up how you are going to respond to stress creating events in advance. In other words, you are making a decision based on your desire to reduce stress in your life.
Your goal is to set up new ways of handling issues that bring about stress because of the negative emotions that they create. Here are 9 areas where you can simplify your style and in doing so reduce stress.

1. Stop Arguing
Arguing is a waste of time. No one ever wins. If you win an argument, the other person feels slighted and annoyed by you. If you lose, you feel this way about them.

Simplify your style into being a person who does not argue.

2. Stop Giving Your Unsolicited Opinion
Closely related to arguing is the compulsion to give your opinion when you haven’t been asked for it. People instantly become resistant and defensive when someone gives their unsolicited opinion.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t give your opinion unless you’re asked for it emphatically
3. Stop Reacting When Others Speak Angrily
When people talk angrily about something, our tenancy is to react to their anger by getting tight, defensive, and stressed. Unless the anger is directed at us, there is no logical reason to react this way.

Modify your style into being a person who does not react to another person’s anger.

4. Stop Requiring Perfection of Yourself & Others
Perfection is an impossible objective. In reality, the drive for perfection gets in the way of creativity.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t require perfection by knowing that it’s a fool’s quest.

5. Stop Trying to Please Everyone
Trying to please everyone is insanity. If you consider all the variations of personalities and likes and dislikes of people, it should be obvious that trying to please everyone is impossible and a waste of time.

Modify your style into being a person who does not try to please everyone.
6. Stop Trying to Make Everyone Like You
Do you like everyone you meet? No one does. Knowing this, why should you expect everyone to like you?

Simplify your style into being a person who does not try to make everyone like you, but rather a person who relies on just being yourself.

7. Stop Grieving About Past Mistakes
Grieving about mistakes you’ve made in the past is a clear waste of time. The only possible outcome is that you’ll feel depressed in the present! And when you feel depressed, you greatly reduce your ability to take constructive action today that will improve your future.

Adjust your style into being a person who doesn’t grieve about mistakes in the past but rather rejoices in what you have today and what you intend to manifest in the future.

8. Stop Worrying About What Might Happen in the Future
By worrying about what might happen in the future, we actually create the conditions for manifesting it. Most things we worry about never come true. According to the Law of Attraction, it takes a lot more negative thoughts to bring about bad results than it does to manifest positive outcomes. This explains for me why most of what we worry about never comes true. Worry is a waste of time. It’s also very damaging to your physical and mental health.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t worry about what might happen in the future, but rather a person who imagines living the future that they desire in the present.

9. Stop Researching & Analyzing So Much and Start Doing
Researching and analyzing things in order to make the best possible decision is a good practice if it leads to a timely decision to act! If the research and analysis goes too far and decisions are postponed, this is a stress-producing problem.

Modify your style in being a person who does a predetermined amount of research and analysis and then makes a timely decision based on the information gathered, gut feelings, and courage!
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If you think about the people in your life you admire, many of them probably have the style that I am encouraging. This style will reduce stress, enhance your health, and earn respect from others.” end of article.

I am going to add these suggestions to my plan for the future!   Thanks for visiting this site.   As mentioned before, for the full article and to gain more wisdom go to:

http://www.guruhabits.com (p.s. I am not an affiliate – I just like his site)

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“On this day of your life, dear friend, we believe God wants you to know……that you are valued more than you know, by more people than you think.

It might be good to get in touch today with your true worth.

It is much higher than you often give it credit for being — and now is a perfect time to know, and to gently assert, that fact.

This is not about arrogance and it is not about overconfidence.

It is about a simple, dignified Knowing.

You will not have to think but a second to understand precisely why you received this message today.” –Neale Donald Walsch

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quote: “No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.”  William Blake.

Happy New Year, I wish you an inspiring 2010

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For those that aren’t aware tonight is a Blue Moon and a special one too. It’s very rare for a Blue Moon to happen on New Year’s Eve. Below is some info from email —-

BLUE MOON MAGIC
on New Year’s Eve 2009
by Ton Pascal

New Years Eve on December 31, 2009 will be more powerful than a super nova.
This vibration will surpass space and time and will be in the seeds of
ALL LIFE CREATIONS

Be mindful of thoughts, they carry GREAT POWER.
Take action, it has power & magic…
Those into wishing, WISH BIG ~~~~
Know we are at the seat of our creations!!!
This super novas give us an energetic boost in whatever direction we are pointed…

Only once in every 20 years, the blue moon appears on New Year’s Eve, as it will this year. On a plain physical level what is happening is that the moon is out of phase with the days. For it to make its complete cycle it’s about 29.5 days. It doesn’t coincide with our month, and that’s why it is out of sync with our Julian calendar. It’s the occurrence of two full moons in one month, which happens every two years, hence the popular quotation “once in a Blue Moon” which means ‘not very often.’ On average, there will be 41 months that have two Full Moons in every century, so you could say that once in a Blue Moon actually means once every two-and-a-half years.

On December 31, 2009, we have a Blue Moon Lunar Eclipse.

On a spiritual level it is as if it asks us to ‘flash forward’ into the next two years to see what we can see. This is the most important New Years Eve we have ever been gifted in a long time. No matter how much you do not believe prophecy from time and earth, it will still affect your energy field and your choices.

Someone suggested this exercise to me and I am glad to pass it forward. This New Years Eve 2009 create an I AM TEMPLATE, an energetic road map into the next two years.

Command the energies into a direction that serves the better good on all levels of your life.

Ask the Light/Angels/Divine Spirit/God/ to release what still pushes your buttons and pulls your strings.

Release the pettiness between you and others, the green-eyed energy that sucks your light.

Release the anger that drains you of your strength, just keeping it alive.

Release the expectations you have of others, as they ride their own horse of a different color.

The I AM TEMPLATE consists of an eternal circle

First, draw the large circle repeating the words I LIVE IN A PLACE OF PLENTY.

Second, on the inside of the circle place everything you plan on creating
in the next two years.

Put down all of your dreams, aspirations, wants, needs, as well what you want for the planet.

On the outside of the Circle write everything you are choosing to release.

Release all that does not serve your highest good any longer.

Be specific in those releases.

On New Years Eve bless the ‘I AM Template’ and then burn it,
releasing its ashes like a sacred prayer on smoke.

This December 31, 2009, Partial Lunar Eclipse is numerically a 7/11 (#9) vibration
Cosmic and personal completion! Entering the next level of love of heart, of soul and service to the planetary evolution through healing self. Free-falling from the height of the nine into the next level of Light. Entry and exits all in the same breath. A quantum leap into unknown gifts comes through the nine. Are you ready to see and be more than you are at this minute of time? Nine is the photo finish on the heavenly line of multiple choices. If you believe you have won, you have. Your New Years resolutions on 12/31/2009 will be more powerful than a super nova. Their vibration will surpass space and time and land at the feet of God.

Be careful what you pray for, as it will come to past.

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I was going to blog something else this evening, but then I came across this article and it fit in so well with what I posted this morning that I decided to share this with you instead.

Forget New Year’s Resolutions – They Don’t Work

Goal setting expert explains real success lies in life plans, not in making resolutions.

“You can forget about making New Year’s Resolutions if you’re hoping for a successful outcome. Most aren’t worth the paper they’re written on,” says Vic Johnson, a leading goal setting and motivation expert.

Most New Year’s Resolutions have gone by the wayside before January is over and most won’t even be remembered six months later. And the reason is pretty simple. Most are made in response to something negative; a habit or situation that the person wants to change or end. And therein lies the problem – it’s hard to develop momentum from a negative response. It is always easier to move toward something than away from something.

Consider one of the most adopted goals — weight loss. No one can get excited about losing weight – it requires deprivation. It’s a negative response to concerns about appearance, health, etc. The results of weight loss New Year’s Resolutions demonstrate their weakness. A survey sponsored by Gardenburger found that more than three-fourths of all women between the ages of 25 and 54 make diet and weight-loss plans each year. Nearly nine of 10 respondents reported only occasional or no success, while almost half lost little or actually gained weight instead.

“The people who succeed at losing weight and maintaining the loss have usually been motivated by a dream much bigger and more positive than just losing weight,” explains Johnson. “They see themselves living a healthy lifestyle. They begin to act and think like people who are in good physical shape. There’s more of a radical change in a person’s thinking and actions than you see with most resolutions. It wouldn’t be possible to effect and sustain such a radical change unless the person is motivated by a big dream that is positive in nature.”

Another popular aim is to quit smoking. Johnson himself was a three-pack-a-day smoker until he celebrated a smoke-free New Year’s sixteen years ago. “For over twenty years I had tried to quit many times using every tool and technique I’d hear about. But as long as I was trying to quit, I couldn’t break the grip. Instead, I developed a dream to become a non-smoker. I fell in love with the idea of breathing clean air instead of smoky air, of my body and clothes smelling nice instead of smoky. I thought about how wonderful it would be to taste food again. I decided to start acting and thinking like a non-smoker, and when the thinking took hold I simply quit smoking. In all the years since, I’ve never wanted another cigarette, never even thought about wanting one.”

According to Johnson, the best goal to set is one that calls for the individual to create a plan for their life based on a set of personal dreams. “Most people are in a free-fall through life, careening from one crisis to the next. If you were going to build a new house and you had this idea for a fabulous master bedroom suite, you wouldn’t rush out and start building the master bedroom. You’d have a complete plan before you started. When you approach resolutions and goals in the same manner, you end up with a much better chance of achieving success.”

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Why have a Plan?

Quote: “Failures don’t plan to fail; they fail to plan.” Harvey MacKay. This has been quoted by many other well known names in different formats, but the meaning remains the same!

When someone starts a business they usually set up a Business Plan before they start!  Well most people do anyway 🙂

Of course it makes sense to do this since they have to present this to the Bank to get funding, or to a prospective Business Partner.

Why not then a Life Plan for our lives?

Statistics have shown that very few people sit down and prepare a plan for their lives.

Why is this do you think?

Perhaps your parents never did, perhaps they never really thought about it and subsequently you did not learn the skill.

A plan, a.k.a. setting goals, is a roadmap for where we want to go and what we want to do in life.

“The best way to predict the future is to create it.” Abraham Lincoln

We make plans for holidays, mostly, (of course it is great fun to take a spontaneous holiday), but on the whole we do the research: where we want to go, what we want to see, where we want to stay, how much money we are going to take to make it a great holiday, how we are going to get there, and we set a date.

Planning our lives should contain the same components.   Why then do so few people sit down and make a plan for their lives?

Is it an innate sceptism?   Are we fearful of setting parameters for our lives; maybe missing out on something if it is not included in the plan?

I have all my life rebelled against setting goals i.e. making a plan, preferring instead to ‘go with the flow’.   Well here I am at 54years, and with 4 months to go till my 55th, I am where the flow has taken me!   And, it is not entirely to my satisfaction.  But……..

As Anthony Robbins would say: “The past does not equal the future.”

I have been swept along, and carried by the waves of life, going with the flow and now I have washed up on the beach of ‘nowhere’.

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up some place else. Yogi Berra

In the last few months after a long journey of Personal Development I am finally at the stage where I get it!!   I have to have a plan.   To that end, I have in the last few weeks found myself far more focussed and this is after just setting a few plans down on paper, and I am making good progress :).

“The Universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” Eden Phillpots

Now, with an eye on the future, I have set a day aside to draw up a plan for the next year, the next 2 years and so on.   On the first of January 2010, I will be sitting down with my startupprincess guide and when I have completed that, I intend writing up a plan, setting some goals of what I want to achieve and where I am going.  This will be my roadmap, my guide for where I want to go and what I want to achieve for the next year and beyond.

The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them.   Even the most tedious chore will become endurable, as you parade through each day, convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to achieving your dreams.  Og Mandino 1923-1996 Author

Awesome!

What are your plans for 2010 and for the future?   Once you have your plan; your roadmap for 2010 here is a tip:

Look at your plan and see how it has been written.   Have you used any ‘away-from’ goals?  E.g. I want to lose weight. Or I want to give up ‘whatever’.

Look at your plan/goals and check if they can be written in a more positive way.  What about including: enthusiastic, fun, strong, and loving way.

Plans tend to happen more rapidly when we work ‘on’ them and ‘in’ them at the same time.   What this means is that they need developing and growing, just as surely as you grow and develop.   Goals and plans should never be static, they should be an active, growing thing, alive and constantly developing.   I never got that, till recently 🙂

Goals should be in clear language, inspiring and exciting and include having fun.  E.g. If you want to achieve a certain weight that requires increasing your level of activity, find something that you really enjoy and participate in that.  For instance, I love walking and have now made it a goal of mine to walk every day for at least 30 minutes, ergo; I have a plan: I get fit, I enjoy the action and in time I will achieve my target and at the same time I get to experience more of the world around me.

If something unexpected happens, as things do, look at how it can be accommodated in your plan, and if you have to take a slight detour, it will be easier to deal with because you have a plan.   You will be able to get back on track as lot sooner if you have a roadmap!

Good luck for 2010, enjoy your planning!

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