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One of the things I love most about being away from London, is coming back.   I never get tired of the view of the Thames as the train crosses the bridge!   My heart always gives a little leap of joy, and no matter what the weather, be it grey or raining or sunny, it always looks just beautiful.

Coming back to London means a lot of things to me.

It means seeing my daughter again, getting a warm hug, enjoying time with her catching up on news.   We get to enjoy a visit to our favourite coffee shops a) Starbucks for coffee and b) Costas for hot chocolate. yummy 🙂

Also, if I am in town long enough, I get to spend an hour or so with one or two of my friends, which is never enough and the time flies by too quickly.

Being in London means visiting my storage unit to offload stuff I acquired from the last trip and recycling my clothes.  I get awfully bored wearing the same stuff for 2-4 weeks in a row.  Visiting my storgae unit, is like going shopping at a 2nd-hand charity shop, except I don’t have to pay for the stuff coz I already own it.

I get to go see a movie again, if there is time.  I get to see Buckingham Palace or the London Eye or the Houses of Parliament and Big Ben.  I always, if I am leaving from Charing Cross on my next trip, make a stop at Trafalgar Square and say hello to Nelson.

I love to watch the changing seasons with a fresh eye and to my delight, on this return – I got to see a light dusting of snow everywhere.   That also means it is bleedin cold and I nearly froze between the station and home last night.

My daughter and son-in-law treated me to a great, late Xmas dinner and my daughter (bless her) went all out with a marvellous spread for her (95%) vegetarian Mom (not that I am a veggie myself 😉 ).  We had a lovely cassis that went straight to my head and I got all silly and giggly as I do when imbibing.

They had loads of pressies for me and it was lots of fun ripping the paper off to reveal the contents, one of which was a pair of wellies!!!    I have so wanted a pair of wellies since Feb 09 when we had all that snow.   My daughter is a very thoughtful gift buyer!!!   My son-in-law attempted to teach me how to play the new game they got for Xmas from a friend, which is a Playstation Dance UK set.  But, since I have 2 left feet and no hand/foot eye co-ordination whatsoever (I would be a real challenge for the Strictly Come Dancing lot), we were in hysterics at my attempts to put my feet where they were meant to be.  I scored a very hopeless tally.   A fun evening had by all.

This morning it is up and about to catch up on appointments, meet my chica for lunch and in the evening catch up on new developments and training with WorldVentures.   Apparently there is new information and I am looking forward to meeting up with other members.

Then it’s off again tomorrow!

What is Personal Development and what does it mean to you?
Personal Development takes many forms and is not necessarily just about attending a course or seminar.  It can be learning to drive a car or raising funds for charity.

How do you know if and when you need Personal Development and why?
What would be the point of engaging in a given course of action?
What would be the steps you need to take?
And why would you even want to start?
When you engage in a given course of ‘Personal Development’, what are the components needed?

Say for example on the 1st of January as one of your New Year’s resolutions you decide to run in a marathon, where do you start?

First of all think about why you want to do the marathon and what is the result you want to achieve.
Are you competing or participating?   Do you see yourself actually completing the course?

Are you doing the marathon to raise funds for charity, and what is your objective?
If you are raising money for charity, is it a cause you feel passionate about and how much would you want to raise?   Will you advertise to raise funds, depend on your friends and family or seek corporate sponsorship?   Will you raise a lump sum or a set a goal per kilometre?

Are you doing the marathon as part of a group or on your own?

Or are you running in the marathon because you think you need to get fit and lose weight?
Are you already fairly fit or are you an ex-couch potato?
Did your Doctor suggest the programme or is this something you just want to do for yourself and why?
Will you have a buddy to keep you motivated?   Who will you buddy with and what is their objective?   Is it someone you know will stay the course?

Identifying your motive, where you are now and your end result will help you to clarify your objectives, and set the parameters of action steps to take.
What date is the marathon?   If it is 6months away and you are really unfit, how much time do you need to invest per day, and how many days per week?
Do you need to give up anything in order to start the programme?
What level of fitness do you have to achieve in order to last the course?
Do you have to make changes to your routine and or home life in order to participate?   What equipment do you need?   Do you have to change your eating habits and give anything up?

Before you start on any programme relating to your own Personal Development it helps to identify your reasons, what will motivate you and keep you going, what will you need in order to overcome the challenges that lie ahead?   Do you have the time to participate and what do you have to give up in order to set that time aside?

Lets assume you want to learn to drive a car and get a Driver’s Licence.
Why do you need to learn to drive?   Is it just because you want to, or because you have to?
How will learning to drive make your life different once you have gained your license?
Will you hire a Driving Instructor or arrange for a friend to teach you?
Do you have a deadline for achieving the license?
How will this help the people around you and what are the benefits to you?

In order to achieve any objective as part of a Personal Development plan, it helps to identify your motivations, your desires, your objections, the challenges, your final goal, and how will it affect the people around you?   Are you prepared to make the commitment needed, and most importantly, when times get tough, as they do, what is it that will get you to continue?
As with any course of action, having a solid reason and a plan for doing it will help you to achieve what you set out to do.

quote: “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising, which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.’’  Ralph Waldo Emerson – Poet and Essayist

Average number of sunny hours in a January day:

Algarve:           6

Tunis:               5

Cyprus:            5

The Gambia:        9

Dubai:              8

Egypt:               8

Sharm El Sheik:   8

Cape Town:            11

Mombasa:            9

Maldives:            8

Mauritius:            8

Phuket:      9

Orlando:            7

Barbados:            9

St. Lucia:            9

Tenerife:            6

Fiji:                   7

I managed to get some photos in Hove this afternoon, here are a few of them.

Hove - St Johns Church (I think)

The Floral Clock in Hove

faded grandeur - Regency houses in Hove

a park near the beachfront

looking towards Brighton Pier

a Sunday afternoon stroll along the Promenade - Hove

Queen Victoria keeping a beady eye on passersby

pretty building, lacey balconys - a flavour of France?

sun starting to set over the sea - Hove

between sea and sky - Hove late afternoon 03.01.10

Today being Sunday, I am of course blogging about religion and spirituality (just because I like to be orderly). 🙂

As a child my mother used to send us to Church (Sunday school) every week.   There we got to learn about Christ and Christian principles and about God.  We also had a load of fun colouring in pictures and listening to stories, and one of my most vivid memories of Christ was of him dressed in a long pure-white robe, a long vibrant sapphire blue cloak over that, brown sandals long brown hair and a beautiful smile.   That image was portrayed in a large book my Mother had given us of Bible Stories.

As we got older and started going to grown-up Church, sometimes my Mother (or Father – depending on whom we were living with at the time) would come with us, most times not), I recall that the preacher – of whichever church was nearest at the time (we moved a lot), would stand on his pulpit and either preach about how God would punish us for various sins etc and banish us to hell, or would preach about a loving God who forgave all sins.   This confused the heck out of me and I could not relate that to the pictures I had seen in the book or the stories I had read. (I do confess I have never read the bible through, only got as far as Genesis and touched on Revelations, as well as briefly on others in between).

In the fullness of time church went out the window and religion took a back-seat to real life, and we practised what my Mother called a ‘shot-gun’ religion – church for weddings, christenings, funerals and the occasional seasonal catch up.   Although I then considered myself to be a Christian the reality was that I did not lead a Christian lifestyle.   Neither I, nor my siblings were either; Baptised, Christened or whatever.   We had conflicting experiences of how life should be lived and how life was lived – leading to total confusion.   Although I pretty much gave up on ‘religion’ per se, I was still curious and over the years I investigated, albeit briefly, different religions; touching on Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, I went to different churches: Methodist; Church of England; Catholic; and Baptist and even ventured into the world of Seventh Day Adventists.

When my daughter went to school, I sent her to a Catholic School for most of her junior years, the result of which that she has sworn off religion for life (so far).  (Actually, the Toasim venture, was unwittingly mitigated by her; through a Chinese school friend she was helping to learn English and who was teaching her Mandarin in return.)   We were totally taken with the whole experience and faithfully attended services every Friday, which lasted till they told us that cats don’t have souls!   Bearing in mind: I am a cat lover of note, had five cats at the time, one of whom had just been killed by a car that very day – bad timing).  Taosim went out the window.

On the rare occasion I have attended church since my childhood, it is usually to pray for someone else (I do believe in an Almighty God/Entity), to attend Easter Service or Christmas Eve Mass (I enjoy the carols) and for weddings, funerals, christenings and very occasionally just because I want to enjoy the spiritual environment.   Other than that I am totally taken with old churches and cathedrals and love wandering about whether they be whole or in ruins.   It is more for the aesthetic beauty than religious, and I also love the traditions.

Which brings me to spirituality.   I would consider myself to be a spiritual person; I had an amazing experience at Date With Destiny (see my book).   And I have been thinking; what is religion as opposed to spirituality and how does spirituality fit into our daily lives?   Doing some research, of course my first stop was Wikipedia and this is what I found.

Traditionally, religions have regarded spirituality as an integral aspect of religious experience and have long claimed that secular (non-religious) people cannot experience “true” spirituality. Many do still equate spirituality with religion, but declining membership of organised religions and the growth of secularism in the western world has given rise to a broader view of spirituality.

Secular spirituality carries connotations of an individual having a spiritual outlook, which is more personalized, less structured, more open to new ideas/influences, and more pluralistic than that of the doctrinal faiths of organized religions. At one end of the spectrum, even some atheists are spiritual.   While atheism tends to lean towards scepticism regarding supernatural claims and the existence of an actual “spirit”, some atheists define “spiritual” as nurturing thoughts, emotions, words and actions that are in harmony with a belief that the entire universe is, in some way, connected; even if only by the mysterious flow of cause and effect at every scale.

Some modern religions also see spirituality in everything: see pantheism and neo-Pantheism. In a similar vein, Religious Naturalism has a spiritual attitude towards the awe, majesty and mystery it sees in the natural world.

For a Christian, to refer to him or herself as “more spiritual than religious” may (but not always) imply relative deprecation of rules, rituals, and tradition while preferring an intimate relationship with God. The basis for this belief is that Jesus Christ came to free humankind from those rules, rituals, and traditions, giving humankind the ability to “walk in the spirit” thus maintaining a “Christian” lifestyle through that one-to-one relationship with God.

Interesting!   This is just a small sample of what I found.  What are your thoughts?   Of course there is much, much more on the internet and the subject could be beaten to death, however, please bear in mind that I am not decrying, deriding or slating any religion, belief or way of life, in any way – I am just voicing what is my belief and how I have experienced life.   I do not wish to be ‘converted’ and if you leave any comments kindly do so at a constructive level, respecting the fact that everyone has a different set of beliefs, values and their own model of the world and that in my opinion we are all correct in our thinking and that we all have the right to our own beliefs.   I also do not feel that any one religion or religious sect, or way of thinking or set of beliefs, is either right or wrong; it just is.   How I do wish that we could all accept that.

And so it is over for another 364 days!  The build up, the excitement, the resolutions all on the shelf for another year. What a shame.

How did I spend my New Year? Well here I am in Hove, near the sea which I love and I got to see fireworks courtesy of some kind souls in the neighbourhood.  I also watched the fireworks on the London Eye via my TV (what would I do without all our wonderful technology).

Then to my delight at about 00:12 my daughter phoned to say “Happy New Year”, and indeed…now it was.

Woke early the next day and took a brisk walk to the beach, such a gorgeous day was not to be missed. 🙂

The streets were quite deserted and except for the occassional pedestrian I hardly saw a soul.   I greeted these few hardy citizens, about so early and received either a cheery response, a grumpy growl or a look that could melt ice. 🙂

The sea and sky were an icy shade of blue and the sun was rising from the east (as it does), casting a beam of light across the waves.   On the beach were the words HAPPY NEW YEAR, and so it shall be.

01.01.10 Happy New Year on the beach at Hove

01.01.10 Hove - clear blue sky and clear blue sea, on New Years day in the morning

01.10.10 on the beach at Hove looking towards Brighton

According to the Sunday Times of 08.11.09 the jobless graduate tally has hit 100,000.

The number of jobless university leavers is expected to break the 100,000 barrier, heightening fears of a “lost generation”.

Tens of thousands of out-of-work graduates from the class of 2009 have joined the 70,000 from 2008 who have still not found employment, official figures are expected to confirm.

The flood of applicants for the shrinking number of graduate jobs had led recruiters to become increasingly tough in their entrance requirements.

Unemployment data published by the Office for National Statistics will also show that the total number of jobless under 25 passed the 1million barrier in October, up from 946,000 in August.   The number of new graduates unable to find a job means the nearly 8% of those aged under 25 with a degree are now without a job.

So where does that leave the over 50’s.

As the years have gone by employers tend to employ people who are younger rather than the over 50’s and ageism has crept into the workplace, despite protests to the contrary.   Reaching 50 can be quite daunting and it is extremely difficult to compete with the younger generation for jobs, especially if you are returning to the workplace after a break.

Did you know: the number of Baby Boomers alive in 2030 will be 57.8 million!   And far from dwindling into the mists of time and irrelevance, born between 1946 & 1964, Baby Boomers are the largest demographic segment today!

I was reading an article in the November 2008 issue of Good Housekeeping and came across an article about women who had made major changes in their lives, and one of them really caught my eye.

The lady in question at the age of 52, divorced her husband, went to America to retrain as a Life Coach, set up her own business and now has her own home and freedom she never experienced before.

Was it easy?   Probably not!

You could settle for the Job Centre route, becoming a statistic on a long list of people waiting for employment, helping someone else build their business, and possibly somwhere along the line lose that job for any number of reasons, you could study for years and build a career, work hard and invest years of your life, again possibly standing the chance of losing your position, or you could take a leap of faith and start your own business.

Why start your own business?   There is a tremendous risk involved with starting up your own business.   There are many issues to be considered, particularly finance, and yet, in this age of insecurity and retrenchments, with more and more people being made redundant, the option of a job becomes less and less likely and less attractive.

So what are the options for starting your own business.

The first thing to consider is what experience do you have, what do you enjoy and what are you passionate about?   Statistics have proven that if you really love what you do, you will make a success of it.

Get together with a group of friends and brainstorm some ideas.   You would be amazed at what our friends know about us! 🙂

Do you enjoy writing?  You could do a course and put together a book, it could be about something you have a lot of experience in, a ‘How To’ if you like.

Do you enjoy dancing?   You could set up a group for your peers and charge them per session and have a load of fun into the bargain 🙂

Do you have expertise in sewing?   You could offer basic lessons to the mothers at the local school, in today’s economic climate many women would probably like to save a bit and make their kiddies clothes.

Perhaps you had a career in Accounting; consider setting up a training course on how to set and manage budgets.

You could also consider joining an MLM or Network Marketing Company.   The set up costs are usually minimal and the industry has produced more millionaires in the last 50 years than any other industry in the world, ever.   In 2008 Avon received a massive boost when a young lady, Debbie Davis who had lost her job, became an Avon representative, aged just 29 she became Britain’s most successful seller.

You could set up a Joint Venture with someone, pool your experiences and offer your services.

On another level, you could offer courses at the local Community Centre.  What about painting, or drawing or cooking; think Nigella Lawson.

Are you good with your hands?   Many women are exceptionally handy with their hands and have had years of experience fixing things in the house; d.i.y.   You could offer a basic service in the neighbourhood; changing light bulbs, plugs, whatever; offer a service.

What is available for women our age, the Baby Boomers?

And as we explore those options, let us celebrate the unalienable fact that we have so many more opportunities open to us than our mothers did.   We are no longer constrained by the rules of society, we have a choice and in exercising those choices we are able to experience the freedom that brings.

p.s. although I am not a representative for Avon I am in the MLM business.

Hello, lovely to see you here; thanks for visiting!

I was working on some articles today, on health and wellbeing for the forum, and whilst taking a break I was reading through some articles on one of my favourite websites:

http://www.guruhabits.com by Brad Paul

I came across this article and felt it was perfect for the health section as stress is one of the greatest killers of our times.  His suggestions make a lot of sense so I thought I would share them with you and wish you a stress-less life!

I have edited the article a wee bit to make it shorter, but if you want to read the full article, go to – http://guruhabits.com

“The desire to reduce stress is a common goal for most people. We are so entrenched in our routines, habits, and ways of doing things we rarely stop and consider new ways of dealing with the stresses of daily living.

By simplifying your style, you are setting up how you are going to respond to stress creating events in advance. In other words, you are making a decision based on your desire to reduce stress in your life.
Your goal is to set up new ways of handling issues that bring about stress because of the negative emotions that they create. Here are 9 areas where you can simplify your style and in doing so reduce stress.

1. Stop Arguing
Arguing is a waste of time. No one ever wins. If you win an argument, the other person feels slighted and annoyed by you. If you lose, you feel this way about them.

Simplify your style into being a person who does not argue.

2. Stop Giving Your Unsolicited Opinion
Closely related to arguing is the compulsion to give your opinion when you haven’t been asked for it. People instantly become resistant and defensive when someone gives their unsolicited opinion.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t give your opinion unless you’re asked for it emphatically
3. Stop Reacting When Others Speak Angrily
When people talk angrily about something, our tenancy is to react to their anger by getting tight, defensive, and stressed. Unless the anger is directed at us, there is no logical reason to react this way.

Modify your style into being a person who does not react to another person’s anger.

4. Stop Requiring Perfection of Yourself & Others
Perfection is an impossible objective. In reality, the drive for perfection gets in the way of creativity.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t require perfection by knowing that it’s a fool’s quest.

5. Stop Trying to Please Everyone
Trying to please everyone is insanity. If you consider all the variations of personalities and likes and dislikes of people, it should be obvious that trying to please everyone is impossible and a waste of time.

Modify your style into being a person who does not try to please everyone.
6. Stop Trying to Make Everyone Like You
Do you like everyone you meet? No one does. Knowing this, why should you expect everyone to like you?

Simplify your style into being a person who does not try to make everyone like you, but rather a person who relies on just being yourself.

7. Stop Grieving About Past Mistakes
Grieving about mistakes you’ve made in the past is a clear waste of time. The only possible outcome is that you’ll feel depressed in the present! And when you feel depressed, you greatly reduce your ability to take constructive action today that will improve your future.

Adjust your style into being a person who doesn’t grieve about mistakes in the past but rather rejoices in what you have today and what you intend to manifest in the future.

8. Stop Worrying About What Might Happen in the Future
By worrying about what might happen in the future, we actually create the conditions for manifesting it. Most things we worry about never come true. According to the Law of Attraction, it takes a lot more negative thoughts to bring about bad results than it does to manifest positive outcomes. This explains for me why most of what we worry about never comes true. Worry is a waste of time. It’s also very damaging to your physical and mental health.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t worry about what might happen in the future, but rather a person who imagines living the future that they desire in the present.

9. Stop Researching & Analyzing So Much and Start Doing
Researching and analyzing things in order to make the best possible decision is a good practice if it leads to a timely decision to act! If the research and analysis goes too far and decisions are postponed, this is a stress-producing problem.

Modify your style in being a person who does a predetermined amount of research and analysis and then makes a timely decision based on the information gathered, gut feelings, and courage!
***
If you think about the people in your life you admire, many of them probably have the style that I am encouraging. This style will reduce stress, enhance your health, and earn respect from others.” end of article.

I am going to add these suggestions to my plan for the future!   Thanks for visiting this site.   As mentioned before, for the full article and to gain more wisdom go to:

http://www.guruhabits.com (p.s. I am not an affiliate – I just like his site)

What does wealth mean to you?

Wikipedia: definition of wealth:
Wealth is an abundance of valuable resources or material possessions. The word is derived from the old English wela, which is from an Indo-European word stem. An individual, community, region or country that has an abundance of such possessions or resources is called wealthy.

I recall the threads of a story I read many years ago; and as the memory dims with the years I may not get it 100% accurate.  But the gist of it goes like this:

One dark, stormy wind-swept night a ship was sailing to distant shores.    As it steamed ahead a mighty gale blew up and in no time at all the ship was swept onto the rocky coast nearby.

Hundreds of people from villages nearby ran out into the wet and windy night to help, lanterns lit to guide the way, with boats to rescue, hands to grasp a drowning man.

Dozens of people were dragged up onto the shore that night and none so piteous as an old man who called out in desperation, beseeching all who would listen!  My Treasure, my Treasure! Oh please save my treasure.

Impatient people, dismayed at the selfishness of this old man, slapped his hands away and shook their fists at him, saying: “There are lives to be saved Old-Man; your treasure can wait”.

Minutes passed and soon turned into hours as desperate survivors called out for help and compassionate villagers hurried here and there, wrapping blankets and shawls, handing out food and warm drinks and comforting those who lived and laying out those who could not be saved.

Suddenly above the noise of the people, beyond the sound of the raging storm a cry rang out!   High and keening, it shook those who heard – to their very souls.   The old man leapt painfully to his feet, staggering wildly towards the shore.   Angry men and women tried to grab him, shouting: ‘You fool, you fool, your treasure is not worth your life’.

Then with a last wild dash the old man bent and scooped a little girl up into his arms: weeping and sobbing he held her close, crying: ‘My treasure, my treasure!   Oh, you found my Treasure!

“On this day of your life, dear friend, we believe God wants you to know……that you are valued more than you know, by more people than you think.

It might be good to get in touch today with your true worth.

It is much higher than you often give it credit for being — and now is a perfect time to know, and to gently assert, that fact.

This is not about arrogance and it is not about overconfidence.

It is about a simple, dignified Knowing.

You will not have to think but a second to understand precisely why you received this message today.” –Neale Donald Walsch

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