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…how funny life can sometimes be.   I had a very productive afternoon springcleaning my daughter’s flat in return for a bed at night for a few days (not a requirement; I offered).    Whilst whizzing (ok so maybe not whizzing) but while manipulating the hoover (actually it’s a morphy richards POD), round the flat upstairs and down, I had time to reflect on life.

Like how did I get to this place.  I don’t mean London as such but to the place in my life.   Here I am almost 55 & I have no home of my own, I don’t own a car, I have no furniture and all my possessions are in storage!  Is that a good or a bad thing?

A few years ago (blimey it really is almost 3years ago), I embarked on a helter-skelter journey of personal development. At one of the courses I did we had to list our five highest values.  My top value is freedom, my 2nd travel and so on.    My absolute passion is to travel.   Be careful what you wish for….

I work as a Carer for the Aged and in that capacity I get to travel round the UK, sometimes to larger cities like Cambridge, or Oxford, (see my previous blogs), other times to tiny little villages that don’t even have a Postoffice or grocer.   Now although that sounds great and I get to see some fabulous, interesting and quintessential places, and although I am travelling, this is not quite what I had in mind!

I tend to get jobs in far-flung places like Newton-Ferrers or some tiny village in Norfolk, or a farm in the depths of Kent where I can’t even get phone reception never mind internet, and yet I am travelling, living my passion; albeit my highest value is constantly challenged.

How does the law-of-attraction work like that?   A few months ago I saw a fabulous house in an estate agents window in Highgate, and secured a portfolio of the house, saying to my daughter: “I am going to live in that house”.   Now I have a job that I start on Monday in Highgate on the estate, but not in the house I admired.   All well and good you might say, except I get to live in someone else’s house on the estate….not my own.  So how does that work then?

I have read a lot about the LOA and listened to ‘The Secret’ dozens of times (literally), and yet it still baffles me.  If I say ask for £1million to be in my bank account by a particular date….that doesn’t happen.  So how is it that when I said one of my highest values was travel, do I get to travel and yet not in a way that I would like.

Is there something I am missing? Some ‘secret’, some point?    I find it exceptionally frustrating, that although to be honest I do love what I do, expecially when I get to care for someone really nice, I find my highest value is constantly challenged: freedom.

Yet if I look at the other side of the coin, I have no overheads in terms of mortgages, council taxes, bills, no transport problems/frustrations and it takes me maybe 2minutes to ‘walk’ to work….ie leave my room and walk to the next, it would appear that I do have freedom of a sorts, yet again, not the sort of freedom I would prefer.

During these personal development courses we are instructed to write down what we want, to be specific and itemise the list carefully.  Is that really what it takes?   Is that what people really do? 

Anyways, so that’s it.  Just wondering!

Well this has been quite a week. Initially when I got this position I was not at all keen to take it, but….I did.  I had been to Cambridge before, about two years ago on a one day bus trip and although it was interesting I was not much impressed with Cambridge and always said I preferred Oxford.

Now that I have been here for a week and had time to really look around and explore I find that I now hold a more favourable view.  I have had time to really look at the buildings, walk along the streets and the weather on some days has been quite lovely, which always helps.

Cambridge is of course a University town.  The University is made up of different colleges; namely: Kings College, Trinity College, St John’s College, Queen’s College and Magdalen College (pronounced Maudlin) – no, me neither…I have no idea why!

Anyways, having been meandering the ancient cobbled streets and occassionally sneaking in where I am not supposed to be, I have had a great time finding out more about this fair city and can now see the attraction.  I have had time to meander along the banks of the River Cam, stroll across the bridges, oooh & ahhh at the architecture and strain my neck to view the statues and decorations high above my head, adorning the sides of the buildings and colleges, have a quick sneeky peek at some hidden treasures and visit the market in the square fronting the Guildhall.

The highlights of my stay have been the view of the river in the mornings from the house; a glimpse inside the ‘Round Church’; a trip to the theatre to see ‘The History Boys’, a play by Alan Bennett; talking to the scientists at the Halley Research Station in Antarctica via video-link on Saturday morning; walking across the ‘Mathematics’ Bridge in the afternoon; ringing the bells at church on Sunday last and today a tour of Trinity College – (my client read maths there aeons ago) plus a return visit to the church to see the bells that I helped to ring! 🙂 

There was most certainly a Saxon Church on the spot, thought the present church dates back to the 13th Century.  We climbed an ancient winding staircase that has been around since the 1400’s right to the top of the tower, spent time viewing the bells and then climbed even further up some very rickety stairs to the medieval belfry to view the ancient beams that used to support the bells.  Fortunately I suffer from neither vertigo nor fear of heights!    At last count there are 5,000 people buried on the church grounds (and I was glad not to add to their number).    The grounds of the church are not very large so many of the dead must be buried one above the other as well as the many who are buried inside the church.

On our tour of the college, I enjoyed a cup of coffee relaxing in front of a friendly fire in the Masters Parlour (very posh – but not as well appointed as one might expect), a tour through the grounds of the college right through to the back (known as ‘The Backs’)  which leads onto the river Cam that winds past the ‘Backs’ of the various colleges, and thence to the Wren Library where I got to see some fantastic books, one of which is an 8th Century original manuscript of the Epistle of Paul written in Latin by an Irish Scribe back in the mists of time, a copy of the notebook wherein Tennyson wrote the original draft of his poem ‘Maud’ in 1855; (100 hundred years before I was born), the 1st folio of Shakespear’s comedies printed in 1623 and the letter Isaac Newton wrote to Hooke depicting the fall of a stone, whereupon Hooke declared this to be inaccurate and thus led Newton to further research, and eventually to write the book Principia.

After this adventure we then made our way to the main dining hall, which is a scene right out of Harry Potter, with even the table lamps on the tables.   The tables, of which there are about 6, are very long (like in the dining hall scenes from Harry Potter), seat about 40 people each.   One of the tables at the head of the room is raised on a dias and the other tables are all lengthways down the hall.    The roof is splendid with arched wooden trusses soaring above, beautifully decorated and in the centre of the roof a glass folly rises high above into a point, which can be seen soaring above the roof when standing on the lawns outdoors.   There are a number of waiters who hover around, silently seeing to the diners, clearing tables and resetting places.   There is the learned chatter of the professors and undergraduates, some of whom are the epitome of the characterisations you see in books; absent-minded, touselled hair, tweed jackets or twin-sets, ‘Proper’ English accents (which sounds like they’re talking with hot-potatoes in their mouths), and the conversation is of esoterical and weighty matters. 🙂

And there was me….in my very worn trousers that have seen better days, my ancient trainers that have walked with me right around the UK, the USA and Europe for the last 8 years, a black fleece jacket that is worn but not yet torn and a bright green t-shirt!!! My camera in hand and an accent to frighten the ‘natives’ 🙂

Trinity has been described as ‘rich, handsome and clever’, one of those could also describe the people in the dining room….I’ll leave it to your imagination as to which!   Now in it’s fifth century since being refounded by Henry VIII, the college reigns supreme as the largest and wealthiest of the Colleges, having famously produced more Nobel prize-winners than France.

The church where I got to ring the bells is the 3rd to have stood on that spot since approx 800AD.   The founding fathers of the Reformation used to meet there in the early 1520’s and at the Christmas Midnight Mass at St Edward’s in 1525 one of them, Robert Barnes, preached what was probably the first openly evangelical sermon to be preached in any church in the country, proclaiming the Christian gospel and accusing the Church of its heresies. St Edward’s can thus claim to be ‘the cradle of the Reformation’ in England.  And I got to ring the bells on Sunday….how cool is that!!!

as mentioned previously in my post Chruch Bells are ringing, I got to help ring the 5 minute bell calling worshippers to service 🙂  I have hereby added some info about bell ringing.  Before I left the Tower Captain gave me a wee book that all learners receive called : ‘This book belongs to…..who is learning to Ring Bells at…… and a whole load of other information on the front. Inside the book is a treasure trove of information on bell ringing as well as do’s and dont’s! One of which is never go near bells which are ‘up’.

My little escapade involved ringing the bell on the back-stroke (=tail-stroke).  So here is some info about that:

Rules to remember:

1. Keep hands together

2. Arms straight

3. Look ahead

4. Feet slightly apart

5. Pull should be:-

-straight, vertical, close to body

-gentle and even: just keep the rope tight & “feel your horse’s mouth”

-all the way down, until your thumbs point downwards – try to throw the rope thru a hole in the floor at ‘X’ (metaphorically speaking)

6. Catch the sally at about waistheight and allow it to rise to the balance.

Other info:

all ringing starts and ends with rounds.

there are different ‘methods’ of ringing;  the names of which alone, are melodic:

“Grandsire Doubles”; “Cambridge Surprise Minor”; “Oxford Bob Triples”; “kent Treble Bob Major”

Some different types of ringing:

‘Method Ringing’; ‘Plain Hunting’; ‘Good Striking’; ‘Coursing Order’; ‘Plain Bob’; ‘Bobs’; ‘A Touch’; ‘Plain Bob Minor’; ‘Treble Bob’; ‘Stedman Doubles’.

Ringing is based more on rhythm and method than musicality, and having an ear for music is not essential.  There is a method for tying the rope, pulling the rope, the count, standing and calling out. Fascinating world and far more involved than I ever imagined, it takes months, even years to learn to ring properly and takes dedicated attention.

The church where I got to ring the bells is St Edward’s King & Martyr in Cambridge 🙂

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how fortunate I am….today I got to realise a long-held dream….to ring church bells.

I accompanied my client to church this morning, and without any warning as we entered he suggested to one of the vergers that I be allowed to help ring the bells!!!

I was gob-smacked and delighted, with no hesitation, I was up the stairs in a flash before they could change their minds.

What a thrill.   I had to stand on a special spot, and helped to ring the 5-minute bell calling the worshippers to service. My role was the back-ring, and I pulled the rope in harmony with the leader of the group. I had to hold the lower end of the rope firmly in my hands one above the other, and pull down firmly towards the ground and then she would pull the upper part of the rope and release it.  I had to hang on though as the rope lifted my arms above my head and not let go.  It was great fun and I felt the pull of the rope, lifting my feet off the floor.  I was reminded of Christmas cards that depict the Monks pulling the ropes and being lifted off the floor, skirts flying 🙂

Rope pulling is not just a case of yanking a piece of rope and hoping the bell will ring; it has a definite method and rhythm with a leader who calls time.  there are a number of different patterns and names for the different tunes played. 

The church where I enjoyed this little escapade has stood on that spot for over 800 years and has enjoyed a few re-incarnations, starting off in wooden form.

So dreams do come true….and sometimes at the most unexpected times. 🙂

To commemorate her 69th birthday on October 1, actress/vocalist Julie Andrews made a special appearance at Manhattan’s Radio City Music Hall for the benefit of the AARP. One of the musical numbers she performed was “My Favorite Things” from the legendary movie “The Sound Of Music.” 

Here are the actual lyrics she used:
Maalox and nose drops and needles for knitting,
 
Walkers and handrails and new dental fittings,
Bundles of magazines tied up in string,
 
These are a few of my favorite things.
 
Cadillac’s and cataracts, and hearing aids and glasses,
 
Polident and Fixodent and false teeth in glasses,
 
Pacemakers, golf carts and porches with swings,
 
These are a few of my favorite things..
 
When the pipes leak, When the bones creak,
 
When the knees go bad,
 
I simply remember my favorite things,
 
And then I don’t feel so bad.
 
Hot tea and crumpets and corn pads for bunions,
 
No spicy hot food or food cooked with onions,
 
Bathrobes and heating pads and hot meals they bring,
 
These are a few of my favorite things.
 
Back pains, confused brains, and no need for sinnin’,
 
Thin bones and fractures and hair that is thinnin’,
 
And we won’t mention our short, shrunken frames,
 
When we remember our favorite things.
 
When the joints ache, When the hips break,
 
When the eyes grow dim,
 
Then I remember the great life I’ve had,
 
And then I don’t feel so bad.
 

Ms. Andrews received a standing ovation from the crowd that lasted over four minutes and repeated encores. Please share Ms. Andrews ‘ clever wit and humor with others who would appreciate it…….that’s you 🙂 Pass this on if you enjoyed it 🙂

Financial Clutter

In the words of Suze Orman: When you take control of your financial clutter, you are left with the power to act and the power to create. Suze Orman

Clutter in our lives leads to more clutter.

Have the courage to make room for more money.

If you hold on to what you have for longer than you should, you’re using yesterday’s space to hold tomorrow’s offerings.

Dr John Demartini is one of the most inspirational speakers I have ever had the good fortune to see and meet.  His Breakthrough Experience course is just brilliant for breaking the chains of past history. His philosophy on life is always really interesting and he makes great sense. I have posted this video for your interest. I hope you enjoy it. Let me know what you think.

Making the most of retirement.

Things have changed dramatically for the current generation of retirees.   These days when we retire, we hopefully have some 25-30 years of active life ahead of us.  It’s a huge opportunity.  However the change from a work situation, to one where there is no structure, is one of the biggest challenges of our lives.

Whatever the length of time we worked and spent travelling to work, and whatever aspirations we have for retirement, filling 40-50 hours each week’s on top of previous leisure times, for the next 25 years, is a major feat!

That’s why going on a pre-retirement course can be one of the best things you can do.   A 2009 study of University of Greenwich found a highly significant increase in life satisfaction among people who had attended such courses, as did a survey by retirement specialists ‘Laterlife Learning’.

What is a pre-retirement course?

There are many such courses, which are purely, or largely, financial.   However we’re concerned here with those that focus mainly on the lifestyle aspects of retirement and also include financial.

The courses help you to think about retirement and the implications, in all it’s aspects and challenge many pre-conceived ideas.

The purpose of such courses is to encourage participants to think seriously about all aspects of their forthcoming retirement in a structured way, so as to increase their chances of enjoying and making the most of this potentially fulfilling phase of their life and avoiding some of the common pitfalls.

A good course will be highly interactive, led by an experienced facilitator and will engage participants in thinking through the changes they are going to undertake and specifically looking at each area of their retirement plans from their own perspective.

As a result of attending the course, participants will often see retirement in a way they won’t have done before and as a result clearly identify issues, opportunities and pitfalls and have lots of ideas and new areas to consider.

For those worried about retirement it will also overcome concerns and fears, making retirement an opportunity to look forward to.

Retirement these days is a time of opportunity and choice.

for more information visit: http://www.retirement-courses.co.uk and http://www.laterlife.com

Giving Back to the World, by Jeremy Gislason

Are you grateful for everything you have?

Consider this, whether you have a million dollars in the bank or a hundred — if you have a roof over your head, food on your table and the comfort of friends and family, you’re rich.

Millions around the world live a bare bones existence and the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness takes a backseat to survival. If you have a roof over your head, you have food in your stomach, and you probably have at least one car, a bank account, and an abundance of creature comforts then by global standards, you’re rich.

Take a minute to look around you, wherever you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re reading this from the comfort of your couch, if you’re sitting at a table in a coffee shop, if you’re sitting in your car, on your treadmill or exercise bike, or if you’re enjoying the sunshine and reading this outside. Take a look around you and make a mental note of all you have. We’re not just talking about the material items either. Friends, family, mentors, and pets are all blessings.

What about you? You have a wealth of strengths, skills, knowledge, and experience too.

What Are You Doing With All Of Your Wealth?

Gratitude has the power to bring more abundance into our lives. We know this to be true and by simply expressing gratitude daily, in every moment of your life, you will understand it to be true too.

In addition to attracting more of what we’re grateful for, like wealth, love, and good health, gratitude also invites compassion into our lives. There are so many people in this world who suffer, who struggle and who do not have the wealth and abundance you have right now, today. It’s important to point out that this is an opportunity for you. Giving back benefits you in a number of ways.

When you give back, you feel better about yourself, your accomplishments and your wealth — you feel grateful.

When you give back, you learn about yourself and about others — this is a valuable opportunity.

When you give back, you make valuable connections with people who have the power to change your life in any number of amazing ways.

When you give back, you gain both spiritually and monetarily. It’s the Law of Attraction — which states you attract what you focus on. The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself, is drawn.

When you possess gratitude, compassion, and generosity of mind, money and spirit, you attract those things back to you — all which make you richer, smarter, and surrounded by life, love and happiness.

Consider for just a moment the amazing contributions of:

Bill Gates and his foundation which partners with companies around the world to improve health and education.

Oprah Winfrey and her angel network which works on global and local networks to improve the lives of others.

And Kelly a small business owner who regularly motivates her social networking followers to generate thousands of dollars to families in need by donating her time and services in exchange for monetary donations from others.

You, no matter what level you’re at or what goals you are striving for, have the mind-blowing opportunity to improve the lives of others, including your own, in a number of ways.

1. You have the power to change the world, to better the world.

2. By embracing and acting on your power, you will gain abundance both materially and spiritually.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.”
-Winston Churchill

How Can You Give Back?

There are a number of ways you can give back to the world.

1.) Volunteer
Volunteer your time, skills and expertise. Volunteering offers a number of benefits:

-You Become Part of a Community
Volunteering has a meaningful, positive impact on your community. We depend on each other for personal and professional survival and when you’re part of a community, your personal and your professional life prosper. Volunteering helps, you build and sustain your community, which in turn will give back to you. It’s a win-win situation.

-Broaden Your Repertoire
People volunteer to contribute their skills and knowledge however it’s practically guaranteed that you’ll walk away with more knowledge and skills than you had beforehand. Volunteering is the perfect vehicle to discover something you are good at and develop a new skill.

-A Sense of Accomplishment
There’s little else in life that offers the same level of satisfaction like watching your hard earned efforts benefit someone in need.

Volunteering also offers you new interests, new experiences, new people, and authenticity and credibility in your industry.

2.) Donate funds
What’s your favorite cause or charity – something that’s important to you, your family or your friends? Perhaps it is the American Cancer Society, the Humane Society, or the Nature Conservancy. These organizations thrive on two things: Volunteers and Donations.

If you have causes, passions and charities which are near and dear to your heart, it’s important to do what you can to keep them in the black, financially solvent, and able to continue to provide their services.

3.) Use your business to tap into the needs of your prospects, community, customers, and associates
One of the truly wonderful aspects about being a business owner is the amazing power you have to give back. As a business owner, you have a rolodex jam-packed with contacts. This includes your lead list but it also includes your associates, vendors, partners, and always your friends, family and community members. You are a veritable Paul Revere — and one word from you has tremendous power, power to change the world and have a positive effect on the lives of others.

4.) Mentor
Mentoring is an exceptional way to share your knowledge and experience with others and give back to the world.

Mentoring is when you meet with someone one-on-one and help them learn and grow. A mentee can be a child or young adult struggling with choices, a professional who is interested in growing their career, or a person interested in starting a business similar to yours. A mentor/mentee relationship is essentially, however you define it.

The Next Step

If history and experience have taught us anything it’s that the more you give, the more you receive. When you take the time to give back to the world with the intention of improving the lives of others, the essential result is that you end up receiving so much more than you can possibly imagine. Give it a try. You’ll be amazed what happens in your life.

About the Author:

Jeremy Gislason is an entrepreneur, online business owner and marketer. He is also a philanthropist with over 12 years of offline and online business experience. Discover The Secret to Lasting Abundance in Mindmap to Riches Vol. 4 at http://www.MindmaptoRiches.com

A Job or a Career

According to the Sunday Times of 08.11.09 the jobless graduate tally has hit 100,000.

The number of jobless university leavers is expected to break the 100,000 barrier, heightening fears of a “lost generation”.

Tens of thousands of out-of-work graduates from the class of 2009 have joined the 70,000 from last year who have still not found employment, official figures are expected to confirm.

The flood of applicants for the shrinking number of graduate jobs had led recruiters to become increasingly tough in their entrance requirements.

Unemployment data published by the Office for National Statistics will also show that the total number of jobless under 25 passed the 1million barrier in October, up from 946,000 in August.   The number of new graduates unable to find a job means the nearly 8% of those aged under 25 with a degree are now without a job.

So where does that leave the over 50’s?

As the years have gone by employers tend to employ people who are younger rather than the over 50’s and ageism has crept into the workplace, despite protests to the contrary.   Reaching 50 can be quite daunting and it is extremely difficult to compete with the younger generation for jobs, especially if you are returning to the workplace after a break.

Did you know: the number of Baby Boomers alive in 2030 will be 57.8 million!   And far from dwindling into the mists of time and irrelevance, born between 1946 & 1964, Baby Boomers are the largest demographic segment today!

I was reading an article in the November 2008 issue of Good Housekeeping and came across an article about women who had made major changes in their lives, and one of them really caught my eye.

The lady in question at the age of 52, divorced her husband, went to America to retrain as a Life Coach, set up her own business and now has her own home and freedom she never experienced before.

Was it easy?   Probably not!

You could settle for the Job Centre route, becoming a statistic on a long list of people waiting for employment, or you could take a leap of faith and start your own business.

Why start your own business?   There is a tremendous risk involved with starting up your own business.   There are many issues to be considered, particularly finance, and yet, in this age of insecurity and retrenchments, with more and more people being made redundant, the option of a job becomes less and less likely and less attractive.

So what are the options?

The first thing to consider is what experience do you have, what do you enjoy and what are you passionate about?   Statistics have proven that if you really love what you do, you will make a success of it.

Get together with a group of friends and brainstorm some ideas.   You would be amazed at what our friends know about us! 🙂

Do you enjoy writing?  You could do a course and put together a book, it could be about something you have a lot of experience in, a ‘How To’ if you like.

Do you enjoy dancing?   You could set up a group for your peers and charge them per session

Do you have expertise in sewing?   You could offer basic lessons to the mothers at the local school, in today’s economic climate many women would probably like to save a bit make their kiddies clothes.

Perhaps you had a career in Accounting; consider setting up a training course on how to set and manage budgets.

You could also consider joining an MLM or Network Marketing Company.   The set up costs are usually minimal and the industry has produced more millionaires in the last 50 years than any other industry in the world, ever.   In 2008 Avon received a massive boost when a young lady, Debbie Davis who had lost her job, became an Avon representative, aged just 29 she became Britain’s most successful seller.

You could set up a Joint Venture with someone, pool your experiences and offer your services.

On another level, you could offer courses at the local Community Centre.  What about painting, or drawing or cooking; think Nigella Lawson.

Are you good with your hands?   Many women are exceptionally handy with their hands and have had years of experience fixing things in the house; d.i.y.   You could offer a basic service in the neighbourhood; changing light bulbs, plugs, whatever; offer a service.

What is available for women our age, the Baby Boomers?

And as we explore those options, let us celebrate the unalienable fact that we have so many more opportunities open to us than our mothers did.   We are no longer constrained by the rules of society, we have a choice and in exercising those choices we are able to experience the freedom that brings.

I would be interested to hear what you think!

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